2014 Cape Town Co-educators

2014 Cape Town Co-educators

Chapman's Peak

At Chapman's Peak
Back row: Manuela, Johnny, Morgan, Jenna, Lauren, Drew, Allie, David, Ken, Sarah, Emily K, Ava
Middle row: Jen, Savannah, Val, Emily B, Cassie, Katrina, Emily W
Front row: Snigdha,Tina, Jessica, Melanie, Courtney, Ryan
Very front: Kiya

Welcome to our blog

WELCOME TO OUR BLOG

As anyone who has participated in UConn's Study Abroad in Cape Town Program can attest, there are no words to adequately explain the depth of the experiences, no illustrations to sufficiently describe the hospitality of the people, and no pictures to begin to capture the exquisiteness of the scenery. Therefore this blog is merely intended to provide an unfolding story of the twenty-six 2014 co-educators who are traveling together as companions on this amazing journey.

As Resident Director and Faculty Advisor of this program since 2008 it is once again my privilege and honor to accompany yet another group of exceptional students to this place I have come to know and love.

In peace, with hope,
Marita McComiskey, PhD
(marita4peace@gmail.com)



Showing posts with label Homestay. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Homestay. Show all posts

Friday, February 28, 2014

Savannah's memorable moments

These past two weeks have included some of the most memorable moments so far from this trip.  Two weeks ago, we had our homestay weekend where Morgan and I stayed with Auntie Alice and Uncle David and their two kids.  The first day we arrived, we were fed an amazing meal of chicken, salad, lentils, and malva pudding.  With our bellies filled, we headed back to our host family’s house and chatted with Auntie Alice before Morgan and I headed to bed. 

The next day, all of us met at Auntie Alice’s crèche for a Valentine’s Day walk with the kids.  What amazed me the most was that there are about 40 children that come every day and only 3 teachers to help.  Most of us were paired up with one or two kids, and by the end of the day, we were exhausted.  I remember crawling back into bed for three hours until it was dinner time. 

After our busy day at the crèche, Morgan and I slept in and went to the beach with our family.  They took us to Fish Hoek, which had beautiful turquoise water and a gorgeous mountain backdrop.  We waded in the warm water and took it all in.  Uncle David was telling us about how Fish Hoek was an all white beach during apartheid and how his family wasn’t allowed there until Mandela opened them back up.  It was so interesting to hear how his family was directly affected by this period in time.  For South Africans, apartheid is a piece of history that is still fresh.  Most of the natives have lived through it and have their own individual story to tell. 



After some delicious fish and chips, we headed home and called it a night.  The next morning, before we went home, we attended a church service in our family’s garage.  The minister was kind enough to have the entire service in English because Morgan and I were there. The service was not long, but it was filled with a lot of music, laughter, and love.  Before it was time to leave, Auntie Alice sent us off with a loaf of banana bread and some cream puffs for the ride home.  I was so amazed with how our family took us in so quickly and how much they cared for us.  I can’t wait to return and share many more memories with our loving family.

Kiya's life altering home stay experience

My time in Ocean View was truly a life altering experience. Traditionally for me, Valentine`s Day has always been a day about receiving instead of giving (similar to Christmas). This particular Valentine`s Day was special because I spent my morning and afternoon giving to the community and not once did I feel like I should be receiving anything tangible back. We started off our day with 40 or so little humans running around. We colored in hearts in the spirit of Valentine`s Day and allowed children to get their group (butterflies, elephants, dolphins, and penguins) painted on their cheeks. During this time I was able to bond with a few of the children and understand how important the space provided was for the families and the children themselves. The day before we were fortunate to hear the owner of the school speak about her personal struggle and how she was able to turn her house into a school with little to no help. I admired her strength and fight to accomplish her goals. After spending time with the children all morning I went ballroom dancing that night. Chantel and a few of us went and it was a blast. Everyone there was so nice and willing to teach us. 
 
Kiya with her little Valentine
Spending time with Chantel was great. She took us to the beach which had to be the longest walk of my life and the coldest water I have ever experienced. It was a great time overall. Later on that day we went to the mall and explored the various stores there.  After the mall we explored Ocean View. It was interesting to see how people where struggling yet they were so happy. We rode through the town noticing how people where living and how they were making a living. For such a beautiful country there was so much poverty in all areas. I wonder what was the government doing to help these individuals.


The family we stayed with was very warm and inviting. Auntie Katie and her husband made sure Cassie and I were comfortable. It was so cute how every meal she set the table putting our napkin inside our cups. I noticed while staying there that she was the neighborhood`s Auntie as well. Everyone spoke when walking by. On Sunday I went to church with them. I really enjoyed the young girls praise dancing at end of the ceremony. That particular day all of the married couples were renewing their vows in church. The church had a couple who had been through many trials and tribulations speak to everyone about marriage and what a healthy and successful one looks like. I thought it was very beneficial for people to hear this information in the place where they worshipped. After church Auntie Katie fixed us a big lunch (more like Sunday dinner) where we all sat at the table together and talked. I hope I can visit them again in the future.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

David valued his homestay experience


Two weeks ago, I spent the weekend in the colored township of Ocean View for a home stay experience. Located between rocky hills and shores on the Cape Peninsula, maybe ten miles south of the city, Oceanview was originally established when colored people were forcibly removed from the surrounding coastal towns during Apartheid. Suddenly, people were distanced from their livelihoods in these fishing towns and moved into the hills, where they had to make a new community amongst new neighbors. Many of the current homeowners are first generation Ocean View residents, including my host father.
           
On a home stay, students are placed in the homes of community members and are essentially welcomed into the home as family for the duration of the stay. Ryan and I were placed in a home with a host father, mother, sister, and our family had hosted students on multiple occasions before. There were also older children out of the home, and one of the young grandchildren spent the weekend with us.
           
We spent Friday working with young children at the crèche across the street, which is South Africa’s equivalent of a day care. We did a fun activity with the kids and then took them to a nearby petting zoo. I only had one child to look after, but even looking after one kid for a couple of hours was enough to completely exhaust me. I can’t even imagine it being my life. That evening my host sister took Ryan and I to see a Valentine’s Day beauty pageant / talent show at the local high school. It was a really extensive production, and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more enthusiastic audience for any event.
David (far right) and his UConn co-educators playing with children at crèche in Ocean View.

My family spent the day at the beach on Saturday. We piled in my host brother’s car and made our way to Fish Hoek, a picturesque beach on the False Bay side of the peninsula. There was a really social vibe going on at the beach, as it was apparent that a lot of folks from Oceanview and friends were there for the day. We were there for hours, talking and swimming and exploring, and other host families joined us. My host parents had relatives who also lived in Oceanview, and they were at the beach with us, and were also hosting students from my program. That evening we came back home and hosted a Braii at our house, and welcomed a bunch of family members. There was great conversation, and the meat was delicious.
           
Sunday morning was devoted to church. My host father is a minister, so we attended his service, which is held in a classroom in the nearby primary school. The service was filled with rock music, complete with a drum set, and my entire host family participated, even the dog. After mass, we headed back home and had another delicious meal, before walking with our host parents back out of Ocean View and to the bus, where we said our goodbyes.
           
While I treasure my weekends in Cape Town as an opportunity to get out and enjoy my free time, I really valued my home stay experience. I don’t often get to spend time with other families, and really enjoyed the fact that so much of my experience felt familiar. The house, which my host father largely built, felt very similar to homes I’ve been in before in the US, albeit with a few rough edges here and there and fewer automatic comforts. When we laid back on the couch and watched a South African soap opera, it reminded me of the time I’ve spent kicked back on the couch in my dad’s house, with Brazilian soap operas on the TV. Really, I gained an appreciation for how familiar life was in this different home and community, that there were the same tasks and pleasures to be had: taking care of the granddaughter for the weekend, figuring out how to fit everyone in the car, wondering where the dog is, spending time with family.
           
I also bonded with the dog, Sasha. When we first came into Ocean View, I saw her out on the street and couldn’t tell whether she was a stray or belonged to someone, but she was very soft and friendly, and appreciated my scratching. Turned out she belonged to my host mother, and spent most of her time outside and about. When we left the crèche on Friday, she accompanied the whole train of volunteers and children as we winded through Ocean View, before apparently coming into another dog’s territory and getting chased out of there. She would follow family members to and from the house, and came with us to church, where she took up residence in the aisle during the service. My host mother told me all about how she has to navigate Ocean View according to the different dog territories, and how she’ll accompany Anne to the market, but have to take detours at certain places to avoid certain dogs. I formulated a sense of a separate dog community, another layer of social organization that existed in Ocean View. I’m glad I had the opportunity to experience it and grow.

Katrina may have left a piece of her heart in Ocean View


Preparing for the Homestay weekend, I really wasn’t sure what to expect. Chantel, the (inspiring) program coordinator, told us not to expect the luxuries we have at home, and also reminded us that this was a community formed during Apartheid, when black and coloured citizens were forcibly removed from classified white areas with little notice and few belongings into crowded townships such as Ocean View where we’d be staying. The townships all over Cape Town span from informal settlements, basically makeshift one room shacks with no plumbing or electricity, to nicer but still very basic homes very crowded together. We’ve seen plenty since being here, and most of the people we work with at our internships all live in the townships, but getting the chance to live with a host family for 4 days would be a whole new experience!


From the moment we arrived in Ocean View, the sense of community was overwhelming. While people have very little, they live with open doors and open hearts, always looking to take care of each other, and bless and help one another (or any of us visitors).  When Sarah and I got to our Host family’s house, we were not just welcomed into their home, but welcomed into their family. And I’ve got to say, one hug from Thelma (our host mom) is potentially the most welcoming feeling in the world. Their house was very small, and there is literally not an inch of space between their house and all the houses surrounding them, but I was surprised to see they had a big TV hanging on the common room wall. But despite the TV, the small common room was most of the house, with a small kitchen area, bathroom but no shower, and two small bedrooms fitting bunk beds. This is so much less than what I’ve become accustomed to. And with no car, they spend endless hours sitting in this small house, which is particularly hot without any air conditioning. But because of this, they are forced to spend hours and hours together as a family, as well as get to know their neighbors and everyone in the close packed community.

After the first night of getting to know our family, and playing cards on the floor with their son Xavier (who hates to lose as much as I do), we said goodbye for the day to spend our Valentine’s day at the crèche (a community preschool). We had a perfect day playing with the kids, making Valentines Day cards, handing them out to people in the community, and finally walking the kids to a nearby farm to play with the animals. My favorite moment was Tina and I bringing out our camp counselor side and teaching the kids BOOM CHICKA BOOM!
 
Katrina taking time out to get her hair styled at the crèche
On Saturday, with temperatures of almost 100 degrees, sitting in the house was getting pretty rough. So Thelma decided we better take a trip to the beach! We walked for a bit then squeezed into a good old minibus, casually fist pumping with Xavier and his cousin to the Miley Cyrus remixes blasting the whole way. Fish Hoek beach was surprisingly close, and one of the most beautiful beaches I’ve ever laid my eyes on. We swam for hours, had a nice race along the beach with Xavier, and even played jump rope with a huge piece of seaweed – so successful day. Exhausted and sweaty, we headed back to find a minibus home. Trying to wash off in the small bath was not easy, and it definitely made me appreciate my shower at home. But they shared everything they had with us to make us feel as at home as possible. At night, we all sat together, in the middle of Africa and watched a Madea movie. It was so surreal, listening to everyone belly laugh to Madea the same way my aunt would back home in her little apartment in Pennsylvania.

Sunday afternoon came much too fast, and when Lantor told us to get out he was sick of having us here I could’ve swore I saw a small tear..? Ok maybe it was just mine. But I hope to visit our new friends again before I leave, hear how Xavier is doing with school and soccer, learn a new magic trick (Lantor and Xavier were quite the duo), and just get to know them even better. They left us with the invitation to come back whenever, but not just in a polite way, in a way that genuinely meant it would not be weird at all for us to come and live with them randomly for a week. I’m so thankful for this weekend and all the amazing people that are starting to make lasting places in my heart, and I’m starting to realize just how hard it’s going to be to leave. 

Val's homestay FAR exceeded expectations


Spending a weekend, which to us consists of Thursday night to Sunday night, in a small town at the mercy of most likely elderly host parents was not something I was looking forward to doing. I wanted to be exploring and going out at night to meet my future South African husband and eating unnecessary amounts of food at Coacoa Wahwah and going where ever my legs (or more frequently, my growing stomach/unnamed food child) decide to take me that day. This is how I was picturing Ocean View, the town where we stayed for the weekend, and please excuse my ignorance: a series of tiny shacks without amenities, no AC (which was actually true), no TV, and a no-nonsense religious family with gobs of kids running around like colonizing ants. And from my experience with elders, especially with more traditional or religious ideals, “fun” consists of rambling at you about that one time they lived on a dairy farm in unnecessary detail (For ex: No grandpa, we don’t want to hear about how your GI problems flared up while helping a cow give birth OR how you amended that situation) or going to a sweltering, cramped church for 5 hours on a Sunday.

What I found when I arrived at my host family’s home was so far from my bleak, overdramatic premonition that I briefly questioned how I maintain a decent GPA with such terrible, very un-Psych-major like assumptions dominating my thoughts in uncomfortable situations. Aren’t Psych majors supposed to be good at crap like acting calmly and accordingly to stressful circumstances? Well, as a testament to my skill level in my future field, let me tell you how I reacted to meeting my host family: They were so far from the stuffy, religious, stiff family I pictured that I wanted to roll around on the floor with their sassy, fuzzy cat who is probably (definitely) cooler than me and uncontrollably giggle until they said “get this maniacal child off of my cat/living room floor” and kicked me out of their house. Their names are Heidi and Rasheed  (I’m not sure if I spelled that right) and they are sarcastic, intuitive, laidback and genuine. They didn’t make us sit through hours of farm talk and nostalgia or go to a hot, uncomfortable church on Sunday, and the only children under their roof were three cats and a feisty bird. In fact, Heidi didn’t even let us call her Auntie, which is a sign of respect for an older person, sort of like “Mrs.” What they did is feed us excess amounts of food (♥), let us sleep in until 10 am, chat with us about everything and anything, let us relax and watch terrible shark movies, take us whereever we wanted to go, pay for all of our food and joke with us when, in a moment of true grace, we dropped ice cream all over our clothes/faces like small children (ahem). We even exchanged numbers, and not in an obligatory “Sure… I’ll talk to you soon (but not really I’m just being nice)” way; we were forrealz. I plan on bringing Mother Dearest to meet them when she comes in two weeks and even after that, Manuela and I are going out to a Karaoke bar with Heidi before we go back to the States. Something about how she loves to sing and also loves Tequila. Or maybe that last part was me and Manuela…?

Either way, I had much more fun in Ocean View than I expected, clearly since it wasn’t hard to beat my expectations. There’s a bunch more I would talk about, but I already wrote a small novel so I’ll spare you the extensive details and sum it up real quick: I hung out with kids at a crèche on Valentine’s Day, had a valentine in the form of an adorable little girl who made me forget that I was going to die a lonely haggard wench surrounded by 17 cats, got shown up at ballroom dancing by some 12 year old boys who have more grace in their left thumbs than I do in my entire body, was forced (but not really, let’s be real) to eat an entire pizza in one sitting, was introduced to caramel dipped ice-cream, although my shirt knows it much more intimately, and was woken up every morning by an f-bomb-dropping bird who occasionally alternated between cussing out the cat (Grey), “Who’s your Daddy?” and making kissing noises (not sure how that’s even possible). It was a weekend of firsts (ballroom dancing, birds screaming profanity, eating whole pizzas like a heifer, etc.) and hopefully the next time I see Heidi and Rasheed there will be plenty more to add to the list. Ocean View was pretty darn cool.
Val learning to dance in Ocean View

Drew spending time with "Uncle"



As part of the UConn study abroad program, we've been scheduled to spend the weekend with various families in Ocean View, Cape Town. Ocean View was established in 1968 as a township for coloured people who had been forcibly removed from so called "white areas" by the former apartheid government under the Group Areas Act. It was first called Slangkop and the first resident moved in 1 August 1968. It was ironically named Ocean View, with residents being removed from their previous sea-side homes and views. As a result, its history is thoroughly embedded in apartheid.

We got off the bus in the parking lot of a casually posh food and wine shop which was abutted by an antique shop, a used book shop, a small restaurant, and various other tourist traps with wares clearly priced beyond the reach of locals. Just beyond the parking lot, there were horses and white camels to ride, and a small farm where children could view and pet animals. An ocean breeze kicked up the red dust of the parking lot, and I raised my hand to shield my eyes. “Maybe we're just making a pit stop,” I thought. The wind kicked up more fiercely this time and my hand was not enough. I turned my back against the dust, swiped at my eyes with a handkerchief, and opened them.

Across the road from where we were, a multitude of colored building in varying states of disrepair lay scattered across the hills at the foot of the mountain. Some of the buildings were little more that shacks, planks of wood and piles of bricks and stones settled under a corrugated tin roof. Behind them, the mountains loomed, sketching a permanent and unforgiving horizon. Bushes and trees lay strewn about and between stones of dreary grey and brilliant white. The wind blew once again and I shivered.

We were led across the road toward a grassy park fringed with palm trees. The grass was different somehow, a tougher kind than I'd known at home. A swing set and monkey bars sat on the far side of the park, brightly colored, empty. We cut across the park in silence, bags in tow, toward the building.

On the other side of the park, short home sat stacked directly beside one another, shoulder to shoulder, yet set apart from one another by chest-high stone walls or fences topped with cruel pointed ends. Here and there, people lingered in and around the street, on their front porch, behind windows, watching us. The staring was nothing new. By now, we learned that it was simply blatant curiosity and nothing more. We waved and flashed smiles. “Hello!” The curiously faces brightened, cheeks upturned, lips parting on beautiful teeth. “Hello!” they returned.

The wind tossed bits of trash here and there, tumbling in and out of the road, onto lawns (such as they were), mingling with the dust in the air. A filthy dog sidled up to our caravan and began smelling my hand. “Hello!” I said. It seemed the right thing to do. He sniffed me a time or two more before sitting back on his haunches and laying down in the road, a bright pink tongue lolling out of his open mouth. I reached down to pet him and was told “We don't touch the dogs here.” There was no further explanation and nothing more was said on the matter.

We trudged under a labourer's sun, sweated, buffeted by dusty wind, winding through the streets of an unknown town. Endless rows of eyes watched us as we trekked through the streets and past the homes. Soon, we came upon a large building, easily the largest in town, that marked Ocean View's center, housing a few shops and a dentist's office. Here, I noticed more dogs, some as filthy and nature-worn as the first, some domesticated and well groomed, all of them friendly, curious, each padding toward us to investigate for themselves. We crossed a dirt and grass square and started up another unfamiliar street.

Halfway down this new road, we were ushered into the garage of one of the homes – a quaint mustard colored building with a neat yard and various flowers and plants on display. The garage was deep enough for three cars but none were parked here. Instead, the space had been converted into a “Crèche” – what we'd call a kindergarten in the States. In place of a bare concrete floor and walls lined with tools, the floor was carpeted and the walls decorated with educational posters. A bank of cubbies stood near the front of the room,, each marked with a child's name. In the rear was a small bookcase with a few books resting on top of it. Behind that, a small basket of toys lay just out of sight. Colorful plastic child-sized tables and chairs were stacked neatly against one wall. We filed in and sat on the floor.

The people that introduced themselves and welcomed us to town were wonderfully upbeat, bright, friendly, passionate. We were told that we would be volunteering with children the following morning though the following afternoon and, though I had already heard this before, I cringed. I do not do well with children.
Drew playing with children at creche in Ocean View
After a few more introductions and prayer, we were sent off in pairs to various homes in town to meet and settle in with the families we'd be staying with. I'm marched off with someone else to a small home on the opposite side of the town center. It, too, is modest, outfitted with a small neat fence and carefully tiled patio. We walk inside, eager to rest but expecting another task. Thankfully, we are shown to our rooms straight away and allowed to unburden ourselves.

The house was not what I expected, or, rather, what I was told to expect.

“This will be nothing like America. Don't go looking for anything like America because it is not there. You will not find it.”

We were not told what we would find, only that it would be foreign, unfamiliar. Walking through the home toward my room, I struggled to reconcile the expectations with my reality. This was a lovely home, cleverly arranged and well appointed, very much like what I could find in the US. I started to think that maybe I had missed out on the irony of our pre-visit meeting. Everything was new, but everything was familiar. I felt at home immediately.

Bags down and shoes off, I emerged from my new room and joined my new “parents” on the couch. Here, instead of ma'am and sir, respected elders are called “Auntie” and “Uncle”. It was unusual but not out of my comfort zone.

“Would you like a beer?”Uncle asked.

“Sure!” I said, hoping I didn't sound as enthusiastic as I felt, hoping more so that it would not be just one beer. “I also brought a bottle of wine as a gift,” I said, standing and crossing the room to get it for them.

“Do you want to open that now?” Uncle asked.

“I... well that's for you and Auntie,” I said, slightly unsure if my subtle declination constituted a breech of etiquette. Quickly, I added, “Am I still getting a beer?”


Uncle flashed an impish grin and handed me a beer. I liked him instantly. 

* * * * *

Uncle, his brother, and I navigated the streets in his neat blue SUV, cruising, in no particular rush. He pointed out the window at a large building that housed a butcher shop. “That used to be a bottle shop. They converted it some years back.”

“Bottle shop?”

Uncle curved his hand into a “C” and tiled it toward his mouth. 

“Ah. Where I'm from, we call them 'package stores' or 'packies'. 

Uncle raised an eyebrow, confused. “Why?”

We came to rest at a stop sign and I shrugged. “I have no idea.” Uncle nodded and proceeded through the stop sign.

“The residents here, many of them are poor because of home loans or high rent.” We pass a sturdy white house with a grey stone wall. A woman stands in the yard hanging sheets on a clothes line. Uncle waves. She smiles and returns the gesture. “Everything is rent,” he says. “Everything is debt.”

We pause at another stop sign. An old yellow dogs pads across the street in front of the car, his mouth hanging open. Uncle remains still long enough to let him pass. The dog takes his time, finally settling on his haunches under a palm tree on the other side of the road. A strong breeze blows down the road, rattling the leaves of the palm tree and the dog flops over on his side and closes his eyes. Uncle puts the car in gear and we coast slowly past the stop sign.

The streets in this part of town were named after astronomical whatnots – Neptune Road, Venus Street, Pluto Drive. A mountain lay like a protective arm around most of the town, only allowing an open view directly to the ocean. “Sometimes the mountain boys come down and raid the place,” Uncle said. I raised my eyebrows. 

Uncle's brother piped up from the back seat. “Baboons,” he said. 

I thought it was a joke and smiled. Both of them stared out the window, suddenly pensive. “You can always tell when they're hear. The children are screaming, the dogs are barking.” Uncle started to continue and did not, and, ass curious as I was for more story, I let it end there.

We climbed a large hill to reach the highest point in Ocean View, stopping occasionally for Uncle and his brother to greet friends along the way. We were in no rush. The top held a spectacular view of the ocean, all frothing waves and hypnotic undulations, white sands and blue skies. “It's beautiful,” I said.

And then I heard, “Lock your door.”

I pulled myself away from the ocean view and paid attention. 

“Lock your door, man,” Uncle said again. I locked my door. Uncle seemed to relax and turned his attention toward the ocean. I joined him. “It's beautiful,” he said. 

I nodded, but I don't think he saw me. 


Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Emily K already making plans to return to Ocean View


Homestay weekend was an enriching weekend where we were able to engage directly in a local community and take part in daily life there. On Thursday evening when we arrived we were taken around the community by Chantel, our very sweet and enthusiastic guide, who gave us insight into the history and geography of the community. Ocean View is a community formed during the apartheid era after the Group Areas Act deemed certain places “whites only” and then forcibly removed the current inhabitant moving them to far away and far less desirable locations. When removed from their home, often with very little, notice people were grouped according to race in different communities where the apartheid government decided it would be acceptable for them to live. They were taken out of their own communities and forces to start anew in a new place with new people. My host mother for the weekend, Auntie Netta, for example was given a week’s notice to leave the beautiful beach town of Noordhoek for Ocean View and she and her ten brothers and sisters were forced to live in accommodations much smaller than their original home and completely inadequate for a family of their size.

After learning a bit about the background of the community we headed to Auntie Bernie’s where all 26 of us were treated to a delicious meal traditional to the Coloured people of South Africa. This cuisine draws influence from Cape Malay and Indian culture as well as traditional African cuisine. The highlight of the meal was definitely a delicious custard dessert with fresh watermelon. After dinner we were brought to meet our new families for the weekend. Jen and I met Auntie Netta, perhaps the kindest woman you could ever meet. She welcomed us wholeheartedly into her home and we exchanged stories over tea about her life and ours. 

 The next day was Valentine’s Day and we headed to the crèche, a care center for young children, bright and early where we were paired with a partner child for the day whom we would watch as we distributed valentines to the community. My partner child and I both colored in big purple hearts adorned with puffy stickers and took lots of pictures together before heading out to pass out our valentines. We walked along the sidewalks and handed out our cards before convening together at the park for a sing along. Next we headed to Imhoff farm where we visited the petting zoo. There was a whole assortment of animals up for petting and others who quickly scurried away from the forty some people impinging on their habitat. The kids got a chance to hold bunnies, pet goats, and run swiftly from overly friendly chickens. After lunch it was a sad goodbye to all of our partner children and other new friends as we headed back to our host families homes.

That night we attended a talent show at Ocean View High School in honor of Valentine’s Day after a delicious home-cooked meal from Auntie Netta. The talent show consisted of different singing and dancing acts as well as an entire pageant where students modeled. After our long day playing with the kids and watching the talent show we slept well in our new room in Ocean View.

The next day we were able to sleep in and then piled in the cab of a truck with Aunti Netta’s daughter’s family, also hosting some of our UConn friends, to a birthday part in Blackheath. The drive was long but along a very scenic route along the water from Fish Hoek to Muizenberg eventually passing Khayelitsha. At the party we were treated to more food than we could account for and after continually being offered sweets our stomachs were quite full. We met a really nice couple who we ended up talking with for most of the night about cultural difference, similarities, and our experiences so far in Cape Town.

The following day it was a very sad goodbye to Auntie Netta as we boarded the bus to take us back home. She welcomed us into her home, gave up her bedroom, and cooked delicious food for perfect strangers and we already have plans to go back. These were connections just made in one weekend so I cannot imagine what it would have been like if we stayed longer! 

Sarah on the strength of resilience and the power of simplicity


When I hear “Ocean View,” I’ll always think of Lantor, Thelma, and Xavier. And I’ll think of the nonchalant nature with which they opened up their home to complete strangers. Katrina and I were welcomed in the same manner as their family and local friends–joked with immediately, offered a seat on a couch, and told we would serve ourselves. We were welcomed as part of the household instead of pampered as foreign guests. The experience was refreshing.

I’m friendly but I’m shy, and so I often take a while to open up to strangers. But Lantor and Thelma laughed easily. Married 15 years, they live in the house Lantor purchased from his grandparents. They have a sky blue truck lounging in their driveway, now broken for several months.  And while they’re saving up for a new one, they refuse to fix it. Thelma pitched the importance of family time, of simply relaxing, and of the drastic impact that broken truck had made in those departments.  She explained something along the lines of “We had more friends because people used to hop in the truck, and we were never home. Or together, for that matter. Xavier went there for a few hours, Lantor and I somewhere else . . . It’s better now.” Her explanation of a hectic “on-the-go” lifestyle hit a note I, like many, know too well. And so we enjoyed our Thursday night simply, just sitting and chatting by the TV.

On Friday, I had the most wonderful Valentine’s Day. No, not romantic . . .but utterly adorable. We volunteered with a local crèche. And Destiny, a sassy five-year old girl decked out in a red stripe dress, became my Valentine. I loved every moment spent with Destiny and the other 40 children. They had me laughing at their bold comments, smiling over their excitement on the farm, and exhausted of carrying them on my shoulders.
 
Emily & Sarah at the crèche
The history behind the crèche offered something as memorable as the experience itself. Raised by alcoholic parents, the owner described her childhood house as a “party place where you’d better disappear and fend for yourself on the weekends.” In yet another drunken fight there, she witnessed her mother kill her father. She was pregnant by age 17 with her first child. In spite of the world she grew up in, she promised a better one for her children. And so she and her husband run the crèche, which houses children from abusive households during the day, feeding them a meal and teaching them basics. She does all of this out of her own home, built brick by brick by hand. As she delivered this history, I couldn’t help but notice that she stated no survival, no good will, and no accomplishment without thanking God. It was moving to listen, to pause, and to think about those things I generally take for granted.

We spent that evening playing card games with Xavier and Lantor. And BS is called Bullshit in that home. We were instructed to not to call is some flowery name, plain and simple. The guys also revealed some fun magic tricks, and were kind enough to share their secrets.

Saturday morning, we awoke to a grand breakfast of eggs, bacon, and toast, cereal and yogurt. Lantor explained that this was their breakfast of champions, their weekend feast–all of which was delicious. It was somewhat upsetting, however, to discover that the family rarely drinks milk, rarely gets calcium. That fruit is an uncommon commodity to be selected at the grocery store. That food is so frequently fried. (Though I will give proper credit to Lantor’s mouthwatering fries and Thelma’s chicken.) That vegetables are not eaten even once a day consistently. That soda is the new water–as declared, “We don’t drink it.” While I’ve heard and understood how poverty can impact diet countless times, I finally saw it. I also saw, however, the extent to which cultural norms surrounding diet influence food choice, even when money is less tight.

Saturday afternoon we headed to the beach with Thelma, Xavier, and his cousin Gianno. I live by the shoreline at home, and I keep thinking I’ll get over how absolutely beautiful the coastline is here. But I haven’t and am realizing I probably won’t. Fish Hoek was stunning beyond words. Of course Katrina and I forgot bathing suits, but sports clothes worked too. We fell in love with the relaxed atmosphere, where Thelma greeted over 5 local families on the walk-in alone. My favorite moment of the day was Xavier’s beach run. I found myself jogging along the beach, dropping for planks in the sand, and jumping rope with the largest piece of seaweed I’ve ever laid eyes on.  

We were briefed before our trip to Ocean View, told repeatedly that we should not expect a lot of “things.” Very much of this warning rang true. Instead of a shower, there was a bath. Air conditioning did not exist. As mentioned, the family had no private mode of transportation. I’ll admit I missed these luxuries in certain moments, but discovered they mattered very little in the grander scope of things. The family did have a large flat screen TV front and center in their quaint living room though. Ironically, this was the first weekend Katrina and I had access to a TV. So we spent our Saturday evening enjoying classic comedies like “Daddy Day Care” and “Madea, ” laughing with the family. Sunday was another day of relaxed cards before we packed and waved goodbye. 

Though we’ve left Ocean View, I hope to remember the people, the humble attitudes of those I encountered, and the their unbeknownst reminder about the strength of resilience and the power of simplicity